Understanding Others

"You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself" - John Steinbeck
Boof. That's a difficult one to wrap your heart around. And it speaks to the power of compassion.
I was listening to an excerpt from Gabby Bernstein's new book " You are the Guru" and she said something that compliments this so beautifully. She said that when we feel judged that we tend to do one of two things: We either become defensive and judge that person back or we take the judgment and internalize it and beat ourselves up when we believe it to be true. Gabby says the solution is compassion. Compassion for each other and compassion for ourselves.
Why is it so difficult to remind ourselves of this beautiful, basic power of love when we are surrounded by fear? I must admit that I struggle with this when I feel hatred and aggression in others. This power of compassion is, however, one of the most powerful ways to free ourselves from self-judgement and pain. I remind myself that it is not...
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Driven Woman's Body Prayer

Uncategorized Sep 26, 2020

Efforting my day, adrenaline drums.

I turn my back on your whispering plea.

    Lungs:  Fill me. Slow down. Breathe.

    Neck:   Rock me. Slow down. Stretch.

    Bladder:  Empty me. Slow down. Pee.

Imagined priorities deafen my ability to listen, to feel.

You carry me, still. Oblige my bid.

     Now squat, now lunge, now push.

Strong, capable arms to hold and to serve.

Relentlessly beating life’s sustaining blood despite my ignorance.

You have stayed with me since my first breath drawn – through thick and thin, in sickness and in health.

Bleeding. Birthing. Nurturing. Morphing on demand.

Beautifully. Miraculously.

I hear you today.

You say


      Slow down.




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When The Now is all that Matters – (aka What I Learned When All I Could Do Was Be Present)

Uncategorized Aug 12, 2020

Every few weeks, for a few hours or a few days, my life is interrupted by migraines. This has been the narrative for my whole life. I have learned to persevere and never let my migraines define me or control my dreams.

Recently my deep sleep was shattered, yet again, by the familiar pressure and blinding pain and I did what I have been conditioned to do: just make it to the bathroom closet and find my medication. The next few hours were another familiar journey of attempted meditation to crawl through the pain until the medicine’s numbing gift could kick in. Queue the heady combination of the “migraine hangover”, the dulling side effects of the medication. Exhaustion, interrupted word recall, difficulty multi-tasking, all pushing against my brain in a depressed (not depressing) state. It was a Thursday. I had a full day of scheduled patient appointments and the running of a busy orthodontic practice ahead of me. My only thought was to put one foot in front of the...

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Hope and Conviction

Uncategorized Apr 13, 2020

Hope is the strength I have been leaning on during the experience of the global pandemic and its fallout. The hope I have been cultivating has been all encompassing. I have hope for my personal growth, for the strength of my family, for the unexpected gifts in our lives, for the positive change in my profession, for global learning and for the opportunity for transformation and enlightenment and awakening. I have a lot of hope. But each of these silent prayers has sustained me in different ways during the complete shut-down of my practice and the social distancing from my community, my friends, and my extended family. Hope has been the assurance I have needed to face every day and every fear I have met along the way.


The gift of hope is that it engenders a sense of power when you feel out of control. The phrase “I am hopeful” establishes a positive sentiment and feels stronger than simply falling victim to the outcome. It permits patience and relinquishes all...

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Honoring the Seasons of Relationships

 Relationships are some of the most beautiful and rewarding parts of humanity and of this life. Some would say that the inter-human connections we foster are the true purpose of life. When the timing and circumstances align to gift us with a perfect match in a perfect person we create beautiful friendships more precious than gold. But nothing lasts forever. Not all relationships can weather time’s trickery, morphing into something we no longer recognize.


In a fast paced world we fall in and out of love with each other in rapid succession and friendships fall victim to the busy-ness of life. Like many people, I have heard myself promise to make time for old friends, months passing like fleeting birds, teasing us with imagined memories of excess. Memories of moments together that we loved stop washing us with joy and start squashing us with regret for not perpetuating reunion promises. Guilt torments us. We self-flagellate for re-assigning our priorities and suffer...

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Rejection Does Not Define You


Oooh, rejection stings. We all know it well. Whether as a child or as an adult, from friends, family, or within our profession, rejection bites and burns. Rejection stays with us and runs storied laps in our heads. And when we can step aside and imagine the story someone else is living we can plainly see that the opinions of others have absolutely no value in worthiness. How could it? Human beings are "only human" and make mistakes with every breath. How many of those flippant, off handed comments that felt like enormous rejection were moments of poor judgement? Mistakes are rungs in a growth ladder yet to be climbed by an unknowing, dare I say, ignorant, offender? How sad is it to take that innocent (or even malicious) comment, that poorly placed rejection and give it the enormity of defining our worthiness?

Rejection is nothing but a word. A word we use to define an action. It has no bearing on our...

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It takes a team

Uncategorized Jan 22, 2020

“The ability of a group of people to do remarkable things hinges on how well those people pull together as a team.”
― Simon Sinek, Leaders Eat Last


Great leaders know that there is no one person who is good at everything. Our strengths are always as part of a team.  Dyana Nyad was the leader of her own dreams when she dove into the water in 2013 to start her 111 mile, 53 hour endeavor. This was, in fact, her 5th attempt to make this crossing and she had been trying for 34 years. She knew that this enormous feat could not be done alone. In fact, she valued the support of her team so much that 1 mile shy of the finish line she stopped to tread water to sing “Happy Birthday” to one of her team members on the support boat traveling next to her. This is one of my favorite stories of success to share. I love it because long distance swimming, of all things seems most like a solitary sport. But, as Dyana said, "It takes a team".

"If something...

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Mother in the Lead

Mother in the lead


One day she awoke inspired and her children created music and song

One day she felt depleted, her morose flock sucked from her more and more

One day she focused on love and wept to see the tenderness of her tribe

One day gratitude graced her brow and abundance kissed her lineage twice

  • Tarryn



As Mothers we have enormous leadership power within our own family unit. You set the tone for the whole family. We all know that when mama goes down the whole ship sinks. I choose to see that as a super-power and not an overwhelming burden. It gives me permission to take care of myself so that I know I can care for the beautiful crew I lead. It also reminds me that every thought I have, every word I say, every action I take, is not only being learned by everyone around me but is a tool to guide and coach. Have you ever been in a really good place in your heart and in your mind and noticed that quietly the whole family seems to be simply content? That is...

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Everyone Deserves to be the Hero of their Own Story

“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are”  -  Joseph Campbell

All too often we live the life that someone else has told us to live, putting into reality a story someone else told us to be true. Incredibly, every one of us holds an invincible power to shape the truth of our own lives. You are your own source of who you are and the type of person you are. You are the designer of your own strengths. You are the author of your own story and you get to choose which role you will play. Why not be the hero for your own life? You can shape this trajectory as you see fit. You never have to rely on the casting that someone else has imposed on you.

Are you beautiful? Are you athletic? Are you resilient? Are you an adventurer? YOU GET TO DECIDE! Even if you have never felt that way before, believing it and acknowledging it as true makes it so. In fact, you even get to change your mind from time to time. What wasn't important to you three years ago may be your...

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